I’ve made so many dumb decisions during my life it’s embarrassing. Instead of looking at them as regretful mistakes, I instead choose to look at them as lessons learned during my life of incredible adventure.
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For me when a relationship runs its course and ends, it’s sad, but I’ll be honest, a little refreshing. Letting someone go means having the space to let someone else near. The wonder of who that new person may be is always exciting to me.
If you’re staying with someone because they have “potential”, just remember, potential is a dirty word.
Know what you want or you’ll get what you get
What you attract is a direct reflection of your self esteem
No one is worth the price of your self esteem
If he isn’t treating you like a soul mate, he isn’t one.
Letting someone go means having the space to let someone else near.
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Anonymous asked:
I'm in love with my Husbands cousin and he is in love with me. This has been going on for 15 yrs. on and off and we try to keep away from each other. We have gone years without speaking to each other and yet we think about each other everyday. When we can't get each other out of our minds we reach out to make sure the other is still there. It is heartbreaking; I don't know what to do? Do I leave,and disrupt my family, or do I let him go forever? I adore him...I love him! He is my soul mateWow. this is intense. First let me just say that when we are in committed relationships it’s easy to lust after someone else, even for years. It happens all the time. We naturally want what we can’t have, and when we finally have it, we realize we don’t want it. Taking the whole “cousin” part out of it, I’ve heard this dilemma time and time again and it usually ends the same. The person finally leaves for the long lusted after love only to realize they have all kinds of issues and the love wasn’t nearly as strong as they thought. They then regret their decision. I just worry that not only will you and the cousin find that the years have blurred the love and turned it into something much more grandiose than you both thought but you will also destroy a family in the process. Multiple families. And even if you DID work out, what then?? A family is still destroyed.
Personally I think you should go to a counselor and talk it out. Discover if you truly love the cousin or if your emotions have just turned this fairytale into something much bigger than it really is. You may find that its just a dream and that reconciling it is all you need.
Kim
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Anonymous asked:
My ex broke up with me recently because I am ready to move on to the next step, moving in together, and he isnt and needs time to think if he is ready to move on with our relationship. We have been 2gether for 2 years and have a child yet doesnt want to commit to me? He also HATES the idea of marriage and thinks once you move in together the woman thinks marriage must happen , which is NOT true. He still wants me to remain faithful while he "thinks" but idk if I should wait around or let him go?Wow. You have a kid and he STILL doesn’t want to think about moving in together or marriage?? Listen, if he’s not 100% into you moving in, don’t. You’re best not progressing your relationship if he’s this hesitant. I say move on. My guess is when you do he will come running back. Sounds like you’ve been too “easy”. (Calm down honey, I’m not talking about sexually). Men need a chase and they value what they have to work hard for. Don’t be an easy target.
-Kim
